WHAT IS WRONG
1) God's plan for the marital embrace:
God determines morality, what is right and what is
wrong, not man.
“Father knows best.”
God designed our sexuality: a human race of male and female is His plan. This is God’s plan; not mine, not yours, not Susan’s.
We are bodied-persons, not spirit-persons. We are sexual persons.
There is no third sex; no alternative life style.
“Man can fully discover his true self only in a sincere giving of himself” (Gaudium et spes 24). God so designed the human heart that we can be happy only when we give ourselves to another totally. Total gift of self. Total self-donation. Totus tuus. No conditions, no reservations.
This kind of committed love can only happen in marriage. That is why we “Save Sex for Marriage.”
Human love, the marital embrace, is wonderful. We must treasure it; resist any dilution, counterfeits or false substitutes. “All that glitters is not gold.” Distinguish between love and lust.
Here is a great quote from Pope John Paul II on 27 Feb 98 to the Center for Natural Fertility Regulation: “Marital Act Must Be Total Gift of Person.”
“I hope that everyone will benefit from a closer study of the Church’s teaching on the ‘truth’ of the act of love in which spouses become sharers in God’s creative action. The truth of this act stems from its being an expression of the spouses’ reciprocal personal giving, a giving that can only be total since the person is one and indivisible. In the act that expresses their love, spouses are called to make a reciprocal gift of themselves to each other in the totality of their person. Nothing that is part of their being can be excluded from this gift. This is the reason for the intrinsic unlawfulness of contraception. It introduces a substantial limitation into this reciprocal giving, breaking that ‘inseparable connection’ between the two meanings of the conjugal act, the unitive and the procreative, which, as Pope Paul VI pointed out are written by God himself into the nature of the human being (Humanae Vitae 12).
“Continuing in this vein, the great Pontiff rightly emphasized the ‘essential difference’ between contraception and the use of natural methods in exercising ‘responsible procreation.’ It is an anthropological difference because, in the final analysis, it involves two irreconcilable concepts of the person and of human sexuality (cf. Familiaris consortio 32)...
“It is only in the logic of the reciprocal gift
between man and woman that the natural regulation of fertility can be
correctly understood and authentically lived as the proper expression of a
real and mutual communion of love and life.
It is worth repeating here that ‘the person can never be considered
as a means to an end; above all never a means of ‘pleasure.’
The person is and must be nothing other than the end of every act.
Only then does the action correspond to the true dignity of the person”
(Letter to Families12).
(L’Osservatore Romano, 11
March 98, p. 2)
2) Language of the Body and Contraception
body has a language of its own. A
handshake is a visible sign of
civility. That is what the action
means and says.
kiss is a sign of friendship and
trust. It is more intimate than a
handshake. But a Judas kiss is a
betrayal of the language of the body. It
is a lie in a very horrible way.
marital embrace is a total sharing
of self with the beloved. That is
what the language of the body means. Contraception
is a different language. It says:
“I’m holding back my fertility. You keep your fertility to yourself. I don’t want to share this part of myself with you.”
The man says: “I like you, honey, but you keep your fertility to
yourself. I don’t want any part
of that.” Contraception
contradicts the language of total sharing.
marital embrace should say what is
means, and mean what its says.
we change the meaning of words,
than we don’t communicate; we confuse.
When we change the meaning of
the language of the body, we change the meaning of love, the meaning of
devotion, of the gift of self, and the meaning of commitment.
3) Contraception is anti-life, anti fertility:
great moral principle is: do the good, and avoid/resist the evil.
are to love the good. Life is
good, human fertility is good. We
are to love these. Babies are
is wrong to turn against a good, against our fertility, and consider it an
evil. Contraception does this.
It regards fertility as a disease.
should a healthy woman take pills? Who
takes pills, a healthy person or a sick person? Why should a perfectly healthy fertile woman take pills to
suppress or sterilize her fertility? A
woman’s fertility is a vital component of her life. The powerful hormones at work in her body during the
menstrual cycle account for her change of complexion amplifying her manifest
Contraception wants a woman to deny a vital part of herself.
Why should she turn herself inside out and upside down just to be
available at all times for her man?
says that a baby is not a blessing, but a curse. But children are the greatest blessing God can give to a
couple and their marriage. Couples should
not deprive themselves of God's blessing.
Couples should not deprive themselves of God's blessing.
4) “NO” to God:
says “NO” to God. God chooses
to work through parents in bringing new persons into the world, persons who
will live forever. Children
are God’s greatest blessing upon a marriage.
From all eternity He knows the number and names of all your children.
Contraception says “NO” to God’s plan.
It says, “We will not be servants of life; we will be masters of
life.” Such a decision shuts
God out of a marriage. God wants us to be generous with sharing
life, just as he is generous in sharing life and more abundant life with us.
God wants us to be generous with sharing life, just as he is generous in sharing life and more abundant life with us.
5) Abortifacient Pills:
you know that all the contraceptive pills are abortifacient? They all have
failure rates, between 2 and 15 percent.
None of them completely prevents ovulation. There is always “breakthrough ovulation.”
The woman gets pregnant. Then
what do you do?
the pill has a second effect, and that is to render the lining of the
uterus, the endometrium, hostile to implantation. This means that when the conceptus, the tiny little human
being, moves down the Fallopian tubes and attempts to take root in the lush
lining of the mother’s uterus, it is rejected, starved, and either sloughed
out of the mother’s body or absorbed. This
is an early on chemical abortion.
pharmacists assure us that for every surgical abortion in the USA and Europe,
there are three to four additional early on chemical abortions.
Remember that the IUD is strictly abortifacient.
Depo-Provera, the injectable, good for three months, is strictly
abortifacient. Norplant, the six
matchsticks under a woman’s arm, is strictly abortifacient.
So also is the mini-pill, called the morning after pill, or “emergency
the future there will be fewer surgical abortions, but more early on chemical
abortions. The next generations
of contraceptive pills, vaccines, or injectables will cause early on chemical
abortions. The woman will become
pregnant and regularly abort her young baby without even knowing she is
6) The Legacy of Contraception:
legacy is multi-faceted and very sad.
In 1968, after Humanae Vitae,
dissenting theologians promised us that contraception would improve our lives
in so many ways. Marriages would
be stronger since there would be no nagging fear of an unwanted pregnancy.
There would be fewer divorces. Families
would be happier and children would be more content.
These were the promises, but consider the actual results.
Credit should be given where credit is due.
always leads to:
The Church teaches that NFP is God’s Way and nature’s way of spacing births. God did not say that a couple must have as many babies as they are physically able. We are not rabbits. But neither does He say just two: a boy for me and a girl for you. God wants responsible parenthood which means the number of children which the parents can love and provide for. God has left man “in the hand of his own counsel” (Sirach 15:14).
is very effective.
used well, it is more reliable than any artificial method, short of
sterilization. Of course, NFP is
not to be abused as a form of Catholic contraception.
There must be serious reasons for spacing births, but serious reasons
requires self-control, use of free
will and clear headed thinking. This
is the human way to give direction to our sex drive and emotions.
We must be in possession of ourselves before we can give ourselves to
is the virtue meant for everyone, both before marriage and after marriage.
Consider the Advantages of NFP:
If we want to be happy, at peace with ourselves, God and others, then we will follow God’s plan for:
Embrace Humanae Vitae!
Contact the Chairman, Brian Murphy with questions or comments.